Breaking-up can be brutal but when the love is gone the only thing left to do is move on. This can be easier said than done when you’re the only one who sees the writing on the wall. Wanting to tap-out of a dying relationship doesn’t make you the source of evil; however, how you execute the final blow can be the difference between your Soon-To-Be-eX wanting to be friends or learning the art of Voodoo! Unless your STBX has committed some heinous deed, there-by granting you a free-pass to be an ass, then show some respect. Here is my advice on how to end a relationship with class.
Location, Location, Location
Choose a semi-private, neutral setting to deliver the news. Do not choose a spot you frequented as a couple; this is not the time to reminisce! Also, avoid your humble abode and restaurants. It is not mandatory to execute operation’ broken heart’ behind closed doors nor is it written that you must have a last supper. Consider a place where your STBX can be a little emotional without losing face; a local park, perhaps.
Keep Your Lips Sealed
Odds are you chatted with a few chums about your relationship dilemma in order to get some advice and objectivity; perfectly understandable. But if your friends know before your STBX that break-up is eminent, NOT COOL! Good news travels fast…bad news, even faster! The only thing that could hurt worse than getting dumped is discovering that you were the last to know. Don’t be an ass, keep your decision to break-up on the hush-hush until the deed is done.
Explanation without Recitation
In order to provide closure, expect to give justification for why you’re calling it quits. Now, this is not the time to sit-down with an infographic highlighting every fault and transgression your STBX has done, they already feel like crap so there is no need to kick them when they’re down. Be prepared to give a simple explanation of specifics that makes it obvious your relationship has no future. I said ‘simple explanation’; meaning give the CliffsNotes version instead! Say adieu with a simple, honest explanation and forgo the drama and emotional angst of a full accounting of all the bad times that brought you both to this point.
“Communicate it, Don’t Facebook it!”
It would be so easy to hide behind technology. Have a heart {and balls} and avoid the lure of notifying someone they’re being dumped via email, text, Facebook, or instant messenger! If you’re an adult, act like one.
Turn the Table
Don’t think you’re the only one who saw the writing on the wall. Unless your future ex was completely oblivious, they too must have observed clues the relationship fire was dying. When breaking-up, help your ex understand why you are breaking-up, by asking if they saw signs that the party wasn’t meant to last.
Avoid Do Over’s
Tears and pleas to reconcile are to be expected; however, flip-flopping on your decision to end the relationship will only postpone its inevitable fate. Dodge the Groundhog Day bullet by avoiding the temptation to relieve the pain and stop the tears by deciding to give it another try. When breaking-up try to remain compassionate but remember what brought you to the point of ending your relationship in the first place!
Marrie
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