As I’ve gotten older, I tend to care less what other people think of me. This isn’t to say that I’m a self serving, greedy wench however; I no longer allow the fear of others’ opinions to influence better judgment. When I jumped back into the dating scene after a nearly 15 year hiatus; I was blessed with ignorance. Sporting new shoes and dress, I loaded-up my new handbag with dating essentials:
Wallet with cash, ID-check
Even if I had no intention of getting laid, I wasn’t about to allow the lack of a condom deny me the opportunity should it become an option. Not a full 10 pack, mind you, but a couple discretely tucked in my wallet. I just assumed that this is what every responsible, sexually active adult did. Well, it is apparently…if you’re a man. It wasn’t until I traded in my online dating profile for a relationship when I realized that a chick carrying a condom is thought to be “notorious.” Unbelievable that in 2012, a woman choosing to take control of her health can be considered a bad slut (for the record, I’m a good one).
But apparently a condom carrying women are an issue for some men. I doubt these same men would complain when faced with the chance to get laid. Sir Richard’s were a basic part of my dating kit because one never knows when the prospect of nooky might come-up. Does that make me a ho? To some, maybe, but it’s fascinating that some men take issue, not with the fact I’ll grant them access to my inner sanctum, but that I had the balls to assume sex was a BYOC bash. I wasn’t aware that my only option was to pop a birth control pill and assume the man would handle the rest. My ignorance to the stigma associated with carrying a concealed prophylactic permitted me bliss. Meanwhile, women who are keen to the judgments of others may not be willing to face the scornful choir. Is the new scarlet letter “C”?
Condoms Are a Must
Whether a woman is dating 10 men or betting all her romantic cards on one; if she is a sexually active adult, condoms are a must. A man may cry “WHORE” if he spots them but if a man thinks you’re a ho, rather than a self-respecting adult, than he’s immature; not to mention a complete waste of a condom! Just move-on. I encourage all women to put on their big girl panties and be prepared for when you’re ready to let them drop! Bottom-line: Sex is an equal opportunity activity and ladies have the right to step-up and BYOC; no excuses or apologies required.
I guess the only thing left to do is get down off my soapbox and invite you men into the conversation. Fellas, what do you think of a woman who carries condoms? Tacky? Promiscuous? Responsible?