Valentine’s Day is a heart shaped box filled with female expectation. Let’s face it, Valentine’s Day is a media inspired spoon-fed romantic ideals for women. Nowhere do you see a woman crying into her Pinot begging her girlfriends for a recommendation to a restaurant or gift ideas to wow! her man. Somehow the sweet intent of this Hallmark holiday has morphed into a bitter imposition laid meticulously at men’s feet. To make matters worse many men are rewarded for their frantic attempt to woo their lady love with stories of extravagant floral arrangements and blinding bling sprung on her rival office gal-pals. The anti-valentineism attitude embraced by so many men would appear to be completely justified.
This year I hope to rally women with my battle cry for male redemption. It’s time that men are rewarded for their efforts; even though the male fortitude for a Happy Heart Day is determined more by their libido than sentiment. But can women really blame them? Men often refer to Valentine’s Day as Extortion Day and with good reason. For decades women have set ginormous expectations with the silent understanding that if the criterion was not met there would be retribution. Disappointment would suddenly tread through the evening in the form of abstinence; withholding sex in retaliation for passionate displeasure. Just because it’s a Hallmark holiday doesn’t mean you should treat it like one! I encourage women to seize the day and reinvent Valentine’s. Love, romance, and intimacy are not uniquely feminine desires. Seriously, what about the fellas? He does, after all make-up 50% of your couple. Why not give him all the bragging rights on the 15th. Allow him to be the envy of all his crew by serving him the best Valentine’s Day ever. Raise your kickass girlfriend/wife status to ridiculous new heights and watch yourself become the envy of all who know you! The best way to achieve love and admiration is to give it…unabashedly. Strip Valentine’s Day of selfish motives and drape it in naked adoration.
Dirty’s Tips: 6 Ways to Make His Valentine’s Day
- Marco. Polo: Create a scavenger hunt. Leave clues, notes, clothes or flower petals around the house leading to you, displayed in all your glory…and not in the bedroom.
- Boys and Their Toys: Handcuffs, kinky lingerie, sex pillows or a dirty movie for both of you to relish. Introduce laughter, exploration and fun into your sex life. Start simple. Sex toys are truly the gifts that keep on giving. You may even start a tradition where every Valentine’s Day you make it a point to buy new toys or props to add to your collection.
- That’s the Ticket! Snag the best seats to a concert with his favorite band or set him up on the 50 yard line for the big game. Who knows, a couple of beers, a stadium dog, and you in his team’s jersey may be his version of porn and lingerie.
- Gift of Selfishness: Buy him a round of golf at a club he would never kick down for or take him to an upscale gun range for the afternoon. Whether it’s with you are a day with the guys…you will be receiving all the thanks!
- What Did You Say? This one is all about sweet anticipation! Sexting throughout the day or hiding naughty notes in his car or computer bag describing little {or BIG} things you plan on doing when he gets home. This will drive him to a state of delirium!
- Drop it like it’s Hot: Dressed in high heels, bra, panties, and a sexy apron set a chair for him in the kitchen and let him salivate as he watches his favorite dish prepare his favorite dish. He’ll eat it up!
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Men are fairly easily pleased. It doesn’t take much more than you just being there, emotionally and physically, for him to feel the love! Isn’t he worth it? Your efforts this Valentine’s Day to make it all about him will be remembered and appreciated for years to come. Trust me…he will never forget Valentine’s Day or look at it as a chore again!
Marrie
A Geekalicious NorCal Betty masquerading opinions about dating,sex, & relationships as fact through dirty talk & wicked rants!
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