Can’t help but notice all the articles from men and women, both in print and on the web, discussing the rising epidemic of a new breed of males. The Adult Adolescence phenomenon is devouring the once young and extremely eligible bachelors of old. These new generations of young males opt for the single life. They opt for 1 bedroom abode furnished with a large flat screen TV, every game box invented and a recycled recliner. They also prefer game nights at the local bar and obnoxious Vegas weekends with the crew than a cozy weekend getaways with you or any other chicka. These articles talk about how these guys need to just grow up, stop being scared (of commitment mostly), and get some responsibility.
My response to this is…Why?
I have a hard time understanding why this is a bad thing. Since when did the prerequisite to being considered a MAN become marriage or parenthood? That is just crap. All of us have met men who were married and/or had children, and still had no problem avoiding responsibility and manning up. Most of the men I knew who had enjoyed the single life well into their late 30’s and early 40’s, were actually very responsible. They all held great careers, had solid financial footing, and still managed to make it through just fine. I thought that was the whole point of being young: get out, sow the oats, have as many experiences as possible. A chance for people to go out and discover what they want, and sometimes more importantly, what they don’t want! Because let me tell you, if you want to be a good spouse or parent, your experiences will be seriously limited after you get married or have children.
The two most accepted rationales for the complaint are the ever popular tic tock of the baby clock and that these males are not really that young anymore. I have to admit that these are both valid concerns but only for…. women, but not all women. The only women that are affected by the Adult Adolescent fit into three categories:
- Women who want to have children
- Women who want to marry younger men
- Women who are the mothers’ of these men who want Grandchildren
My response to all of these women is that our life expectancy is getting longer and that with these extended years comes some extra time to enjoy life and take things a little slower. I’m sure that getting married when you were 13 was a sound idea when you only lived to be 35, but now that we can expect to live well into our late 70’s, what’s the rush?
So, let the new man play his Wii, have his drunken Vegas getaways, and eat stale, cold pizza. I would rather he enjoy his life and settle down when he is good and ready. Anyways, there is nothing in the definition of an Adult Adolescent that says it only a term for males. Women shouldn’t be fucking sitting at home watching their baby clock tic, they should be going out and figuring out what exactly they want out of their lives and not make life such a race to the baby line…I mean finish line!
Other articles you may enjoy:
Where Have the Good Men Gone ~Kay Hymowitz via Wall Street Journal
Single Twenty Somethings: The Wall Street Journal says your a calamity ~ The Daily Femme
Two Cheers for the Maligned Slacker Dude ~Nathan Rabin via Wall Street Journal Digital Network